It isn’t a horrible responsibility, but people get confused by the fact that a black woman can date outside her race and still remain true to her family.The weight of the family struggles does get put on the woman because she is incredibly adaptable and strong.Here’s what’s lost in all of this ill will, people – you have the right to date whomever you want.It shouldn’t matter if bae is Smurfette, the She-Hulk or one of those giant blue women from Avatar – as long as that person treats you with respect, love and admiration, what else do you need?

Black women are walking tales of resilience and strength, and it’s all embedded in their skin.

I’m not sure what the weather’s like in your neck of the woods, but those woods look like this out here: Before you seek out a warm body for your bed, please make sure he or she isn’t an utter disappointment. Send your inquiries to [email protected], or find me on Twitter @etbowser. Here’s today’s question: It’s 2015 and y’all are still out here fussing about melanin levels? Complaining about who someone else is dating like it’s any of your business. When black men – arguably the most stereotyped and subjugated minority group in the country – see black women dating outside their race, they, once again, feel shunned.

There are about 50-eleven more important issues – like why we still haven’t received those hoverboards and self-lacing high-tops Back to the Future Part II promised us. When society is constantly telling you you’re not good enough, only to see “your women” also turn their backs on you, it’s painful.

Please watch your footing as we step into the land of crooked double standards.

As you may already know, double standards seemingly haunt us in every aspect of our lives, whether that’s at work, school or the already difficult world of dating.