Please note, even though BPD affects men about as often as women, far more women are diagnosed with the condition.For this reason, and in the interest of simplicity, this article will use the pronouns “she” and “her” throughout.Experts liken borderline personality disorder relationships to a roller coaster ride, but not the entertaining kind you go on at Six Flags or Disney World.

If autism is hyper-masculinization of the brain, it may help to think of BPD as characterizing hyper-feminization of the brain.Those moments are what the person longs for.”Still, to Paddy, it is worth it.“I try to see the light,” he says, and he believes that one day his girlfriend will overcome her BPD. Nine months into their relationship, he and his girlfriend have moved past the early days of butterflies and uncertainty and have begun developing a true bond, the kind that begins to take hold when you become familiar with each other, learn each other’s rhythms, and begin to truly see each other.“There have been times where I have been so infatuated and so blissfully happy that I felt like running away with her,” he says.How do borderline personality disorder relationships evolve?They usually start out with excitement and fun, but end in turmoil and pain, leaving the non-BPD partner deeply hurt and confused.